How do you trust someone enough to become friends?

I got burned by my best friend a year ago who slept with my ex-boyfriend. I found out and dumped them both at the same time, which hurt really badly. Problem is that I'm pretty shy and don't feel comfortable with people until I get to know them very well. I'd like to find another good friend, but how do you trust people? Do you ever wonder if your new female friend will betray you like your last friend?How do you trust someone enough to become friends?
The best thing to do is trust in yourself. When you trust in yourself and believe in your own voice inside your head, you can tell what person is good and what person is not so good. The girl who burned you i am sure you saw signs that she was jealous or flaky or had some kind of bad vibe about her that you overlooked or ignored.


Find a friend that is secured with themselves and have good morals. Never discuss your man, confide in your friend about problems with your man, nor brag about your man to no female, because every woman wants to live happily ever after, every woman wants a man. So, don't advertise him to your friends, keep your private business private or you will not have any business. If your friend is constantly giving you unwanted advice about your man or make him seem like he is nothing or praise him too much that is a sign, but never appear jealous, intimidate or threaten, just ask yourself why is my friend so worried about your man, her answer, is because i care about you, unless he is beating you it is none of her business.


And about your man, find a man with morals and who appreciate your morals.


Don't become someone friend or girlfriend out of desperation, do not be too paranoid or suspicious but dont be too gullible and ignore your gut feelings either.


The main person you should try to become friends with now is yourself, and that confident but modest attitude will attract the right person. But dont rust it, it is said when you look for it, you dont get it but if you don't look for it, you find it.


Healing hurt takes time, so don't rush it.


Sometimes there are friends out there, but we over look it and have a certain idea of a friend in mind. You can become friends with the elderly lady next door, or the not so popular lonely girl across the street or the moral but friendly girl of a different race around the block.


When finding a man have the same open minded attitude. sometimes what we need is right in our face we over look it to find something that does not exist. While that perfect opportunity passes us up


It is okay to be shy and it is only right to feel comfortable around someone when you know them. It is perfectly okay to be youHow do you trust someone enough to become friends?
You know that's a sentiment I feel quite often because I broke it off with two best friends I had this year (Both of whom I knew for years). I haven't made many new friends and honestly it can be quite frustrating because I feel lonely because of it. I'm saying a lot of this so you know you're not the only one. The way I deal with it? Take a chance anyway. People aren't generally out to stab you in the back and if they do, it can hurt but you can bounce back from it. Just remind yourself that you'll heal, and things will be fine. It can't be done overnight, but, it's a matter of time. If you want to talk more about it you can email/IM me at serenelune @ hotmail dot com.
you know when a friend is worth of trust when...





well, it's hard to explain. but for me, i just know it.





and to trust people? you just got to do it. they'll trust you if you trust them, unless they're backstabbers.
It can be hard but everyone deserves a chance.


You can't assume everyone will back stab you like your old friend did. It's hard to trust people, I agree, but you shouldn't judge them before hand - You'll never make friends that way.
Don't trust anyone